The Yellow House

a life of light house

Home Sweet Home

Houses are interesting places. There are lots of kinds of them throughout various places around the world. Sometimes they are made out of bricks, and sometimes they are made out of stone.

Sometimes they are made out of hay bales; and other times, made out of logs. They can be 2 stories, 3 stories, or just one level. Lots of windows or hardly any at all. But each house reflects the preferences of the people who live there.

And there are a lot of choices about what you can do to make your house look like you want it to look.

And for many people, those choices are really important, and one of the most important choices is color. What color the house is, can make a huge difference in how people feel about their homes and it can really change what other people think about your home too.

Jazz Blue

Jazz Blue

So let’s say, your house is blue. Not really light blue, but a color that is really suited for the northeast part of the US. This is a pretty dark blue as a matter of fact the Behr paint company, which is really big in the US, calls this color Jazz Blue, and it is pretty dark.

Not black, but dark blue nonetheless. Now this is going to give your house a particular kind of style that will be communicated to anyone seeing your home. Nothing wrong with that, it is just the way the world is. People make a decision about things based on how they look.

But it could be that when you first got your house and it was this dark blue color that, that style exactly suited your thought about your home. A bit subdues, not too flashy, kind of sedate and calm. Just like your family. People often have emotional attachments to the color of the home they live. And the thought of changing that color is difficult for them to contemplate.

Time For A Change


But sometimes, lives change and people think they want something different. Like, for instance, they want to change the color of their home from Jazz Blue to Sunshine Yellow. Something changed in their lives and they want to make a change on the outside too.

sunshine yellow

Sunshine Yellow

So they go out to the garage to get the paint. And they get the ladder, and they get the paint brushes and the paint roller and the paint tray and the drop cloth and a bottle of water to drink in case they get thirsty.

And they set all their painting equipment up in the backyard and pour the paint from the bucket into the paint tray and put the paint roller on the handle and get out the brush and start painting.

They paint for 3 hours and decide its time for a water break. Then they paint some more and its afternoon and the sun is starting into go down and its getting a bit dark so they start o hurry things along a little bit because who wants a half painted house when the sun comes up in the morning.


Thanks But No Thanks

And it gets a bit darker, and nobody wants to paint with a flashlight, and little bit chillier and now they are really moving along trying to get the last corner of the house painted before the sun goes completely down and they paint and paint and paint and just before the last of the sun disappears over the horizon, just as the moon is starting to peek out from the eastern sky, they finish.

The last bit of paint is on the house and in a triumph of delight in they rush to brag about getting the painting all done in one day and it is fabulous. Everyone in the family is excited they decide to throw a special dinner to celebrate the painting of the home and start up the grill to cook some fine tasty hamburgers and shrimp. Yum yum yum.

Everyone washes up, dinner is served, and even a celebratory bottle of wine is consumed and it’s off to bed with a job well done.

A good night’s sleep. Well rested, showers taken, teeth brushed breakfast eaten, nicely dressed and it’s off to the backyard, camera in hand to record for posterity, the results of yesterday’s fabulous work.

And there in the backyard, standing in awe as ready to take pictures of the freshly painted house, they take a close look and discover that the entire house has been freshly painted with a gleaming coat of Jazz Blue.





shocked smiley


"How can this be?"

everyone shrieks in dismay. We got the paint from the garage; we got the brushes and the drop cloths, and the paint rollers, and the ladders and the paint tray. We spent all day out here with only a single break for water, working and sweating and toiling under the sun only to find out that the house is still blue.

Well, no. The house is not still blue.

The house is blue – again.

How can that be, when you went through that big process of change. Got the supplies, dragged them outside, worked hard and long and it seems like nothing is any different even though you put in all that effort.

Most times, when similar things happen in your life, when you did similar sorts of changes but you wind up with results like you had before you started it’s because of one small thing.

You Have To Start At the Beginning

You didn’t prepare for the most important change. Now in this metaphorical sort of story, the most important change is that the house change from blue to yellow. But you neglected to do the most basic thing necessary for that change to happen.

You didn’t get any yellow paint - but you did everything else. You got all the supplies, you brought them outside, you worked all day changing, but those are all things that help the change along, once you start with the most important part.

If you are interested in changing your life for something you want more, for something you think you would like better, its an important thing to begin with that most important part. The beginning.

Because if you don’t start there, all the work you did will only bring you the result you do not want instead of those that you do.

This Makes Sense

So if you want to paint your house yellow, you need to start with yellow paint . . .

Because no matter how many times you paint your house with the same old blue paint that you've always painted it with, it is never going to be yellow.


Have a great change today.  🙂


19 Comments on “The Yellow House”

  1. Dr. Erica Goodstone

    What a great story and so true. However, if we’ve been doing something for awhile, even it it’s not really working, it can be difficult to stop and go back to basics. One example I can think of is unfriending people on FB or Twitter who are not in your niche and starting almost from scratch to rebuild your followers.


    Dr. Erica

    1. Michael

      Dr. Erica, absolutely. It can be a difficult thing to go back to basics. It could also be a freeing experience to let go of things from the past that no longer serve us. It’s been my experience that letting go stuff that doesn’t work for my anymore is a very lightening experience. I’m not sure that’s areal word, but if not maybe it should be. 🙂

  2. Srinivas Reddy | Ask Sage

    Love the story, Michael!

    Indeed, if you neglect the most important thing about repainting your house (or your life), it’ll look the same no matter how hard you work at it. I think this metaphor of yours can be applied in all kinds of life situations. Doesn’t matter if you want to change your career, create healing, find love, whatever. The principle is the same.

    Before you change your house color from blue to yellow, you must think yellow. Otherwise, it’s wanting yellow but painting with blue.
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    1. Michael

      Thank you Srinivas, you are so right. If you want to change, you must begin at the beginning. Otherwise, you are going to wind up with exactly the same thing, even after all the hard work. Blecch.

    1. Michael

      Hello Marty,

      Thank you for your kind words. 🙂 How cool is this, I was just reading this post on your blog – Unexpected Detour and went to get a cup of tea, came back and here you are. Thank you for coming to take a read. I hope your day is going wonderfully today.

  3. Steve-Personal Success Factors

    Michael, great story 🙂 Another way to look at this metaphor is that many of us live lives of ‘quiet desperation’, knowing we need to make a change, but not conscious of it. So we busy ourselves with a lot of things, when what we really need to do is quiet down, reflect, and discover our mission, vision, and life purpose. Everything else flows from that.
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    1. Michael

      Thank you, Steve, for your kind words. It is so true that we often fill our lives up with endless amounts of noise and busyness when our true nature is peace. You are so right, everything flows from that center. 🙂

    1. Michael

      And it is so important to think about what our own thoughts are first, before we try to change them because somebody thinks we “should” do it their way. 🙂

  4. Jimmie Barber

    This is a prime example of starting with the first part of the project and moving on from there to obtain results that you so desire. Just as if I were building a house I would not want to start with the walls and roof first. I would start by building a solid foundation, so when my home was complete it will hold up. The same in real life and even doing what I am doing right this very moment, building relationships and wanting to build a list of people to know, like and trust. I think people could go a long something like building a solid foundation first. Besides, we wouldn’t want the roof to cave in on us!LOL
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    1. Michael

      You are right, Jimmie. You do have to start at the beginning, otherwise you wind up with something vastly different than what you were aiming for in the first place. You do have to start with a foundation, like you are doing in building your business, otherwise you wind up with some kind of structure that is going to be lying all broken up on the ground.

      Not that I have ever done this before, (face palms himself) 🙂

  5. Gregory Bowen

    Hello Michael…..We live in a society that is always in a hurry or already knows…..I call it a fast food society……we go through a drive through hamburger place and we can order the food we want by using a meal number…..we hardly even look at the menu….sometimes we need to slow down and start all over so we don’t miss something…..we need to smell the roses a little….feel the wind in our face a little…..then we can let those changes happen without assuming our old habits….got to start from the beginning ….Amen my friend…..well done Michael…..Smokey
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    1. Michael

      Thank you, Smokey. 🙂

      Good things are all around us everywhere we look,; we just have to take the time to look. And when we do, we see the world is packed full of great and beautiful things to see and experience. And all we need is a littel bit of time to appreciate them. 🙂

  6. Natalie

    If some one wants expert view regarding paying attention to what is happening in the present moment, this is the post to read. Thank you.

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