Well, for many people, it can be pretty tough. Not they want it that way, but that they are convinced that it is that way. As a matter of fact, they have heard their entire lives that it is tough, that it’s hard, that fighting your way through is the only worthwhile way.
It kind of makes you wonder sometime what is the thing that people are referring to when they are doing all this talking and thinking.
Well, if you ask them, you will get an entire list of ideas and subjects and just plain stuff that they think is hard, at least when you are first talking to them. But if you have an authentic conversation with them that lasts for more than just a couple of minutes, you can get an idea about what they think is so hard.
And the answer can be summed up in a single word:
Lots of people think everything is hard, all the interactions and stuff going in their lives is difficult and that anything is worth fighting for.
That sounds like a lot of work just to get up and live your life in the morning. I wonder if there might be an easier way.
Well, all across the Universe you can hear a mixed bag of answers to that question. One group of people is going to say that life is hard. That anything that is good ought to be worth fighting for. And that how could anyone ever think any other way.
In fact, they might even venture to think and say out loud that if someone is not going to fight for what they think is worthwhile, then maybe that person doesn’t deserve to have anything good at all.
And they can point to numerous incidents in their own personal lives where they decided they were going to fight for something and it seemed like that very thing showed up in their life. So they count that as a success and decide that since that way of thinking and acting worked for them, then OF COURSE, it is going to work for everyone else.
And Then There's These Other Folks
Then there is a group of people who will tell you that everything in the universe is out of their own control. That decisions get made in other places by other authorities and then the results of those decisions show up here in their lives.
Many times you can hear these folks saying that no matter how hard they fought against something, no matter how much they tried to not do something, it STILL SHOWED UP just like they were afraid it was going to I the first place. So then, they kind of figure that there is no point in thinking about anything at all or fighting for something because they are going to get what they get and nothing they do is going to change that.
And of course, because they view that as their personal experience, they cannot imagine how the world could be different anyone else and spend their time telling anyone who will listen that nothing is up to the individual, so it doesn’t really matter what you want at all.
But Wait, There's More
And then there is a group of people who is convinced that the entire Universe is designed to bring them exactly what they want. Or more precisely, exactly what they are thinking about and that there really is no other way that the world works. Lots of these people also try their best to convince others that this is the way the world is constructed and they point to their own lives as examples of this being true.
So here are three different ideas about how the world works that seem to be in conflict with each other. People tend to have an idea one way or another about which of these viewpoints is correct and which are wrong. But in fact, it is easy to tell which is correct and which are wrong.
They All Are
They are all right and they are all wrong. And the difference lies in a very small (or big) idea.
Personal perception or like the title says –How Tough Could it Be?
Say, for instance, that you were a person who believes that the only things in life worth getting are the ones you have to fight for. That you believe in a limited supply of good and that if somebody else has something good that leaves less of it for you.
Interestingly, that kind of viewpoint tends to bring you experiences that fit that model really well. You find in short order that you have to fight for anything you want, that all your energy is given over to competition so that you can get more than anyone else and that the minute you let your guard down, someone comes along to try to get yours.
And that is your truth. So this way of thinking must be correct.
And the person who is convinced that nothing they do makes any difference in their lives. That all the good things and the bad things are given out o the luck of the draw and that no matter how hard they fight for something they never win also sees those events in their life.
That is how they live on a constant basis; that is what they expect; that is how it has always been and nothing is ever going to change that “needing to live with the hand you are dealt” idea and that nothing matters anyway.
And the interesting part is, they are also correct as far as their lives go, because as far as they are concerned, everything in their lives is just a crap shoot, which they lose most of the time.
So there are two opinions where the adherents both seem to be correct in their view on life. I wonder if there is way to reconcile those two ideas.
Wait a minute, we were talking about 3 groups of people before – could it be that the answer to this seeming dilemma might lie with the ideas of the third group?
Cue the dramatic music, Carl. (He’s the sound guy here at ALOL)
The third group of folks seems to be of the idea that what they think about comes true for them. Now truthfully there is a bit more to it than just having a random thought show up on your doorstep every time you have one of those. Good thing too, can you imagine what your house would look like if the results of every single thing you ever thought of was lying in your living room when you got home from work?
But consistent thoughts that have some strong emotion attached to them; do those show up? Oh yeah. Up close and personal and the more you think and the more emotion you invest into those thoughts, the quicker and the stronger those results show up.
Now, let’s just take a short look back for a second or two and see if we can connect the seemingly conflicted ideas of right – and wrong from before.
The folks who think that fighting is the way the world runs are convinced of that. They know it in their hearts, they are passionate about it and the first thing that happens when they want to get something in their lives is that start thinking of all the obstacles they need to fight through in order to get their goal.
And those fighting ideas show up in physical reality almost immediately.
And the people who think that nothing they do ever makes a difference in their lives, whose hearts have been broken so many times into so many pieces that they think nothing is worth caring about. And the best they can hope for is hoping that it won’t be too bad this time. That they won’t lose too much money, or this relationship will last a little longer than the last one before it fizzles out or any other idea they destroy before it gets out of the gate, they are right too.
And their thoughts become reality for them – all the time. Their world turns out to be exactly how they expect.
And this third group, the ones who already understand that their world is made out of the things they think and care about. Well, of course, that is what shows up in their lives.
And they kind of wonder why everyone doesn’t see the world that way.
So all three groups are right.
It might take a little practice to be able to change the way you think, but the idea that the way you think determines your reality, is not going to change anytime soon.
And if you are getting stuff in your life you don’t really want, it is definitely worth the time to change the way you think.